Recently I saw and episode of when I met your mother, or some sitcom like that. Anyhow one of the male characters was trying to decide between two women he was dating, one of the things he was determining over was who reached for the bill at dinner. Not if they paid, but that they reached for the bill. It got me thinking, what is the PC thing for a woman to do these days?
Matchmakers tell women to let men be men. That they pay, plan the date, etc. Till you're in a committed relationship. Pax Programs say to give men ideas, go to thier area of town so they feel more comfortable and let them be the men. Feminists say no men should come to you, you pay the bill, and you take charge. So it gets confusing for a woman in the dating world as to what to do.
Does it matter on who asked who? If its casual? Do you offer to pay 1/2, all, reach for the check and pray that he takes it from you? What? It really is a very akward situation to dating if you ask me.
And If I don't reach for the bill will that be the end of whatever might be building between us? What if I really don't have any money to pay for it, should I volunteer to do the dishes? *pulling hair out* UGH!!! Dating is so difficult sometimes!
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Monday, February 13, 2012
Relish the joy ness
Sometimes you meet someone who truly is amazing and you realize in a second that all you have is that one moment with them.
This past weekend I was blessed with a wonderfully sweet and amazing few moments with a truly sweet and caring man. He showed me that there are men out there that think I am beautiful, sexy, vibrant and intelligent without wanting to get in my panties. It was a truly wonderful experience that I will hold in my heart and spirit.
Tomorrow’s Valentines Day and I yet again have no valentine. I thought I might be sad about it. But actually I’m celebrating my singleness. The girls and I are going to dinner and a movie. It’ll be fun and well none of that mushy lovey dovey stuff. Stuff that forces men to be outside of their comfort zones and perform as though they are a trained monkey. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy flowers delivered to me at work, but I want to know its what they want to do and not MADE to do it because there is a date on the calendar.
Movie oh I have no idea what number is down. I saw Hugo in 3D yesterday and it was cute, not extraordinary but cute. I don’t really understand or get how movies get nominated for best Oscar picture because they are all so different in categories, content and meanings. It would truly be hard. I have 3 more to watch and then I’ll be done with the OSCAR movies!!! Thank heavens the last 3 are on DVD.
Did I tell you that I have lost 25 lbs? I have since the 1st of the year. It’s not a TON I know this but it’s enough that I feel it already in my body and attitude. I also know that it’s affected my sex drive because I seem to want to have sex again all the time. GRRRR
My healing card today said to A cheerful expression brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones. This year I have worked toward positive ness more than ever and I think that is what has gotten me where I am today…realishing in joyfulness.
This past weekend I was blessed with a wonderfully sweet and amazing few moments with a truly sweet and caring man. He showed me that there are men out there that think I am beautiful, sexy, vibrant and intelligent without wanting to get in my panties. It was a truly wonderful experience that I will hold in my heart and spirit.
Tomorrow’s Valentines Day and I yet again have no valentine. I thought I might be sad about it. But actually I’m celebrating my singleness. The girls and I are going to dinner and a movie. It’ll be fun and well none of that mushy lovey dovey stuff. Stuff that forces men to be outside of their comfort zones and perform as though they are a trained monkey. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy flowers delivered to me at work, but I want to know its what they want to do and not MADE to do it because there is a date on the calendar.
Movie oh I have no idea what number is down. I saw Hugo in 3D yesterday and it was cute, not extraordinary but cute. I don’t really understand or get how movies get nominated for best Oscar picture because they are all so different in categories, content and meanings. It would truly be hard. I have 3 more to watch and then I’ll be done with the OSCAR movies!!! Thank heavens the last 3 are on DVD.
Did I tell you that I have lost 25 lbs? I have since the 1st of the year. It’s not a TON I know this but it’s enough that I feel it already in my body and attitude. I also know that it’s affected my sex drive because I seem to want to have sex again all the time. GRRRR
My healing card today said to A cheerful expression brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones. This year I have worked toward positive ness more than ever and I think that is what has gotten me where I am today…realishing in joyfulness.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Irish Men, Movies and more!
So the Irish man and I are no longer. Short lived huh? He turned into a really mean evil person, not what I want in my life. It got really painful yesterday with his harassment on text. Mean things calling me substandard, a loser, etc. I got really depressed over it all last night. Slept and slept and slept. This morning I woke up and said it’s a new day and this jerk is not going to affect another day of my life. It’s been an AMAZING DAY!!
50/50 Challenge update.
Rented three movies over the weekend. The Debt which was a total bore in my opinion. Courageous which the ending to me was the best part and the testing of their vow. Then Friends with Benefits, that was HILARIOUS although predictable. So that’s 10,11 & 12 down. 38 more movies to go. And 49 more books. LOL
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Movie number...9? Irish men, and Mercy!
Incredibly Loud Extremely Close one of the best pictures nominated for an Oscar and movie number….in the 50/50 challenge. I actually liked the movie quite a bit. I didn’t know what to expect from the previews and reviews I heard elsewhere, so I went into it with an open mind. And I was blown away; it was a great movie, awesome story line and the main character the young boy, played the part outstandingly. I didn’t cry but it did make me think and was a reminder of the tragedy of 9/11 and what it did to people, families, friends, it was a reminder to not forget or to take life for granted. It was a good movie.
I met an Irish man last night, he’s 39, no kids, divorced, his mum passed away a few months ago. He’s funny, intelligent, strong, and makes me smile. We have a lot of similar interests and goals in life. I’m swooning a bit over meeting him and where this is going. We have out first official date Friday so we will see. *smiles* oh and he has the sexiest Irish accent.
Life is good. I’m working out, balancing life, and realizing that I need to be more merciful towards others if I expect the same in return. It’s a hard one, but a vital one to a positive healthy life.
I met an Irish man last night, he’s 39, no kids, divorced, his mum passed away a few months ago. He’s funny, intelligent, strong, and makes me smile. We have a lot of similar interests and goals in life. I’m swooning a bit over meeting him and where this is going. We have out first official date Friday so we will see. *smiles* oh and he has the sexiest Irish accent.
Life is good. I’m working out, balancing life, and realizing that I need to be more merciful towards others if I expect the same in return. It’s a hard one, but a vital one to a positive healthy life.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
The root of all disease is negative attitude
Daily I choose (well it chooses me) a healing card. It’s just a card that makes you think about something in your life, then presents a questions to ponder. I thought this morning’s was fitting.
The root cause of all disease is negative attitude about taking care of yourself. How do you define “taking care of yourself?” Create a new self cared practice today. Observe your comfort level when it comes to being good to yourself. Discomfort is a wise teacher.
Yesterday I decided to change my mindset about working out. To just do it and something better will come of this path I choose a month ago. If I have a negative attitude towards exercising OF COURSE I’m not going to do it. But if I remind myself of my goal and the positive of working out and pushing that damn play button I’ll see the rewards while I enjoy the sun and water of the Great Barrier Reef in December! I can do this!
I’m really concerned about my friend Sana. She dropped out of the 90 day challenge, citing that she just feel it. I know those that live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, but she wasn’t really doing anything. She refused to do exercise, even when I offered to walk around the lake with her. She complained about the shakes hurting her stomach, she complained that it was just too low of calories for her. I was LIKE DAMN girl I hope I don’t sound like that. I realized that she just doesn’t want it bad enough. She’s happy where she is at.
But now she’s complaining that the events she liked about GP aren’t being put on the calendar, the dining out and wine events. She complained that all that was on the calendar these days are Oscars movies that she has no desire to see and exercise events. I told her that I had combined the dining out and wine events to girls night out events. That yes my focus this year had changed. She also complained that she just wasn’t connecting with the new girls. WELL YOU have to talk to them and let your wall down!!! I realized I was being defensive about her comments, and that I shouldn’t. Just like the challenge I’m not responsible for her happiness or how much she participates or gets from the group. I truly believe that you have to SHOW UP and give it your all to get rewards from any friendship. It’s a give and take. I pray and send her positive thoughts because I really am concerned about her health and mindset, but its her life.
I sorta have been missing M a lot lately. There have been a few times that I have wanted to contact him, but I’ve reminded myself that I’d be chasing him, that I made a goal of no contact this year, and that if he missed me at all he’d have contacted me. Says a lot doesn’t it?
Create a positive mindset about yourself and your attitude and you’ll see the changes with those around you. They either accept and grow with you or they fall off the wayside. It’s a shame but sometimes it’s the healthier path when taking care of yourself.
The root cause of all disease is negative attitude about taking care of yourself. How do you define “taking care of yourself?” Create a new self cared practice today. Observe your comfort level when it comes to being good to yourself. Discomfort is a wise teacher.
Yesterday I decided to change my mindset about working out. To just do it and something better will come of this path I choose a month ago. If I have a negative attitude towards exercising OF COURSE I’m not going to do it. But if I remind myself of my goal and the positive of working out and pushing that damn play button I’ll see the rewards while I enjoy the sun and water of the Great Barrier Reef in December! I can do this!
I’m really concerned about my friend Sana. She dropped out of the 90 day challenge, citing that she just feel it. I know those that live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, but she wasn’t really doing anything. She refused to do exercise, even when I offered to walk around the lake with her. She complained about the shakes hurting her stomach, she complained that it was just too low of calories for her. I was LIKE DAMN girl I hope I don’t sound like that. I realized that she just doesn’t want it bad enough. She’s happy where she is at.
But now she’s complaining that the events she liked about GP aren’t being put on the calendar, the dining out and wine events. She complained that all that was on the calendar these days are Oscars movies that she has no desire to see and exercise events. I told her that I had combined the dining out and wine events to girls night out events. That yes my focus this year had changed. She also complained that she just wasn’t connecting with the new girls. WELL YOU have to talk to them and let your wall down!!! I realized I was being defensive about her comments, and that I shouldn’t. Just like the challenge I’m not responsible for her happiness or how much she participates or gets from the group. I truly believe that you have to SHOW UP and give it your all to get rewards from any friendship. It’s a give and take. I pray and send her positive thoughts because I really am concerned about her health and mindset, but its her life.
I sorta have been missing M a lot lately. There have been a few times that I have wanted to contact him, but I’ve reminded myself that I’d be chasing him, that I made a goal of no contact this year, and that if he missed me at all he’d have contacted me. Says a lot doesn’t it?
Create a positive mindset about yourself and your attitude and you’ll see the changes with those around you. They either accept and grow with you or they fall off the wayside. It’s a shame but sometimes it’s the healthier path when taking care of yourself.
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