Is negative attention better than no attention at all?

I remember when The Past and I were together that we would fight sometimes and I remember sometimes starting the fights just to get attention from him. I seemed to be okay with getting the negative attention the fighting with him as long as I was getting some attention from him. Silly isn’t it? No it wasn’t to have make up sex, although that was always nice.

I’ve learned recently that it is because as a woman we want, NO, we need to feel connected. That’s why we want to hear from the men/people in our lives, it’s why we seem to always want more from them. Its why well at least for myself I always seem to want to reach out one more time in a text, email, phone call, whatever.

I’m learning a lot about myself and the men in my life but at the same time I’m trying to understand my needs, wants and desires. I working on the understanding of a man’s differences from a woman, and working on being that safe trusting place for them to come to express themselves, to be open and honest, to well just be themselves without fear of ridicule, judgment or anger. Men are men amazing people although they are different from women they are just as deserving to being treated right.

So work on getting that positive attention from someone, that attention that is true, worthy and real, instead of that of which you have to manipulate to get.