Sometimes they get it right on the nail head!

I recently read a Blog written by a guy from a website that I chatted on in the past. I found it ironic to a point as I knew the guy who wrote the Blog personally.

We had gone out a few times, talked/texted, and spilled our guts out for months, all to find out that he had led me on, lied about being married (I only JUST learned this almost a year later) and numerous other things. On top of it he is now dating/involved with the woman who has harassed, belittled and assaulted me for the past year, talk about a punch in the stomach.

Anyhow back to his Blog, although I dislike the guy with the largest rock in the world, I did find his Blog enlightening and made me smile. I thought I only more men read it and understood that this is truly what women want.

I’ve been working on understanding men the past few years, seminars, workshops, books, research, etc. That I thought shoot I’m going to share something for the men to learn about women. So enjoy.

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Hello everyone,

Pull up a chair and let ole' Papa B give you everything I know about women. That's right EVERYTHING I know....all fits in this 1 little blog post. There's tons more to know about a woman, but us men will never get it, so just follow B’s 7 steps of Engagement (Yep, just made that up, go with it) and you will do ok. This mostly applies to the men, but women can learn a thing or 2 as well.

1. Communicate effectively

If you want or DON'T want something...just say it. Let the poor gal in front of you decide if she wants what you want. If you only tell her what you *THINK* she wants to hear....may god have mercy on your soul...because she sure won't.

2. Listen to her--actually LISTEN

I know us guys are just thinking "pussypussypussy" like that dog in the Beggin Strips commercial,. BUT! If you listen to what they say outside of the sex chat, you will get brownie points when you bring up things that you learned and you will determine if they have something you might want long term. Meaningful relationship, friends w/ benefits or just a fuck buddy. Either way, put the dick down and learn a little about the woman you are trying to stick it to.

3. Make her feel important

Yep, I know what you're thinking...it's just a sex site, why bother? Simple...you make her feel important, even if it's just for a date or 3 and she will work your dick like she's going for her scuba license...and isn't that what we all want? Honestly though...a woman that feels important to you will work hard for you, and on you. Enough said.

4. Have integrity...say what you mean, mean what you say.

Goes back to # 1. If you feel something, tell her and ask her to do the same. It might be as simple as "I'm horny? Are you? Yeah? Good, let's fuck." Or it might be something more meaningful that you can create a bond of friendship or more over. We all have shit going on in our lives and you would be surprised how much of our shit is similar to everyone else's if you would only take the time to tell it straight. For example, it's no big secret that I am married and going through a divorce and I told it to every woman I talked with early on in the conversation. I am sure it has lost me some opportunities, but it was out there with no surprises.

5. Be honest. Never lie--not even a white lie

You'd think this would be simple enough. Only acceptable lie is for surprise birthday parties, gifts, trips and the like. Otherwise, the truth will set you free....and a lie will get your rabbit boiled. Nothing makes a woman loose her cool quicker than when she feels betrayed and lied to, so save yourself the carnage and just don't lie.

6. Tell her she's beautiful...often.

Listen, we're all beautiful in our ways. If you think she's worth enough to fuck, there must be some things about her you like...so open your trap and let her know. None of us is perfect. Us guys might not be in great shape, might have a bald spot, our dicks aren't 12 inches long or whatever. If this gal thinks enough of you to take YOU inside HER, that's a beautiful thing and worth your compliments.

7. Be generous with yourself, your time and showering her with gifts doesn’t hurt either

No one likes a fuck and go unless you are a hired hooker. As in #6, if she's hot enough to fuck, then don't rush it. Spend a little time making love to her mind and I swear her panties will fall off so fast and hard they will leave a crater in the floor AND the sex will be 10X better for both of you. Spend time on her and be generous. That doesn’t mean you have to buy her a Bentley, but don't be a cheapskate either. Just learn a little from #1 and #2 and go with that. Perfect example of what I mean. This past Xmas I got a beautiful lady a really nice gift...pretty big ticket item that I knew she needed. I also got her a few $5 and $10 baubles that I knew she would love based on the conversations we have had. As expected, she went gaga over the baubles and, while she loved the big gift too, it was the fact that I listened and knew what to get her on a personal "bauble" level that got my brains screwed out that night.

One last thing never let your ego get in the way of saying the two most healing words..."I’m sorry". It goes a looooooooong way fellas