BLAME

Blame is a funny thing if you think about it. People blame each other all the time for different things, Wars starting, car crashes, even a simple wrong sandwich ordered. But the most common blame is that of emotions, people blame others for how they act, feel or say. If you take a step back though and realize that NO one has control over you than really who is there to blame but yourself?

You allow others actions to upset you. If someone says they are going to call and they don’t you have to get past the negative thoughts that it’s something about you and realize that REALLY it’s about that person who didn’t call. That is really on them, it’s their value of character and word not a reflection on if you are a good person or not.

When I was married I remember knowing in my gut that he had a mistress but I couldn’t prove it. I just knew it. I remember asking him one time to just be honest with me. To which he threw it back in my face blaming me for driving him to another woman. I thought really?

Blame is a really tricky thing in relationships. Whether it be romantic, family or friends. As humans we all tend to blame someone else for our upsets, What if for just a moment we took a step back and said NO I’m not going to allow what you’re doing to affect me? Would we be stronger, healthier people? Or would we just be denying our truths?