Get out of my head!

So many thoughts rolling around in my head causing me a bit of anxiety lately. I woke up at 3am this morning and didn't fall back to sleep till 5am. Woke up and instantly started thinking about the conference and all the things I have been neglecting due to the NRE with A. Not that I am complaining at all, I sooo enjoy spending time with A so much so that it feels scary at times. Its just before meeting him my focus was on the conference and all the things, now its like I have NO desire and a part of me has even thought about canceling the entire thing but I can't do that I have A LOT of people behind us and a lot of money out already. UGH! 

So I need to journal out all the feelings of everything. The conference I have started a list of things I need to do or follow up on and will get back to it in the new year. I need to schedule a meeting for the committee in Jan. So that is on the list also and then we will be focused again .

Puppy and I are totally over, I still can't seem to let go. I still seem to want to check on her and see whats going on but I keep getting told by Poppa, A and J to let it go. Its not  good for me and I know this. She is a very manic stage just focused on dick and getting fucked. Its so sad. I feel responsible for it but at the same time know she is an adult and I can't control her anymore. Plus according to her she's being told she's back to herself. *sighs* 

So I went to breakfast with a guy last week, we than hooked up at AE the next day and it was TERRIBLE!!! Like literally TERRIBLE!! The worst experience I have ever had. It effected my brain so much. So much so that I was questioning my feelings with A. STUPID SO VERY STUPID!! Actions over words always!!! The guys actions totally changed after we had breakfast, I should have trusted my gut more. I should have known something was off, plus I have no time or energy for games or men who can't be honest about what they want. What's funny is he didn't get the precious pot, he just got a little play and well that was as I said AWFUL!!! So why am I still dwelling on him? I know because I allowed him into my head and actually allowed him in so that I questioned the men in my life, SO NOT COOL!!! UGH!!! 

A and I are doing awesome. I feel guilty about it sometimes. I feel like I have become so co-dependent again and that I am ignoring Poppa. *frown*  Poppa says we are fine and that he's fine with me spending time with A, I just feel guilty sometimes.  

The only complaint I could have is that A and I rarely have sex. He doesn't seem to want to have sex as much as me and I don't know it's the one thing in our relationship that is straining. But I am working through this, I read something today and realized my actions towards him about it is abusive and I need to STOP! He has every right as he has said to not want to have sex. (Just seems so strange to me) But I am happy with all the other things he wants from me and his time with me so why shouldn't I just accept that we don't always have sex? Cause he makes me hot and bothered ALWAYS!!! *smirks* 

Work is stressful because I feel like I am not doing a good job and now I have to do that stupid assessment again which causes me so much stress and anxiety. *frown* 

The only time I feel myself is with the leather family, Poppa and A. The only time I seem to not worry about anything is with them. They are my home, my heart and my sanity. I love them so much. I could do without the rest of the community and just stay with them every day, every moment and be fine. 

So now that I have rambled my thoughts out of my brain I hope to goodness they will go away and I can just enjoy the holidays. 

Rambling Thoughts

Not really sure what the topic will be today, so many things running through my head.  Mainly how I can’t wait to see A tonight and just lay naked next to him breathing hard. J Yes I’m talking about sex, and all the things that come with that. SEX SEX SEX. Since meeting A its been a strange rollercoaster of feelings he has come into a place in my life that I knew was empty but didn’t know how empty it was.  He makes me smile and my CGB panicking at times. UGH!!!

I cut off all ties with Puppy this past week. I just can’t handle it anymore she is making in my opinion really bad decisions and in order for me to heal and move on from the relationship I needed to cut all ties. It was hard and even harder when I didn’t see A for a few days and I felt so disconnected from him, but that’s been rectified. I think about her everyday wondering how she is and what’s going on but at the same time I will say that its really nice to not have to worry about her and the stress around her.

At Family dinner on Sunday L&J both said how they are happy that its over as she is an energy sucker. I need to trust not only my gut but also those around me that I love’s gut. Poppa said the same thing about puppy and I tried to dismiss it but he was right.  So hoping that in the future I can listen and not get myself stuff in something that will just be determinately to my well-being.

Dinner was really nice. I love my chosen family so much and would much rather spend time with them than anyone else.  Well except for when I get to spend time with A. J

I realized this weekend that after about 3 days of not seeing him, or two days of no real communication from him I start to feel disconnected and I start to get into my head. I can’t stand that.  So I need to be able to tell him that I can’t do that, I think he is getting it.

I’m suppose to be meeting a guy for tea tomorrow night after work and I’m actually sort of looking excited about it.  Not sure why, maybe I am wanting A to  feel a little bit nervous about losing me? But he’s not. So we will see

WHY the panic?

WHY!!! Why on the way to work this morning did my brain decide it wanted to freak out about A possibly being stationed elsewhere in A YEAR!!  Like is it really necessary for me to think about that right now? Why is if necessary for my CGB to be like "oh stop caring about him, stop loving him, stop all of it cause it will go away in a year". IT’S A FUCKING YEAR AWAY!! And not only that but there is a chance he could be stationed here for 3 years afterwards so WTH! 

Ya know CGB sometimes I don’t understand you either!  

Life has been good, is that what it is? A and I are finally in a place I can say that I feel safe, loved and cherished.  K & I are in a place that we both are realizing what our marriage is and loving each other  for being able to move and flow with what we both need.

SO WHY CGB? WHY this morning did you want my to have a panic attack for something I have NO, spell it N-O control over? Just enjoy the time with him and get on with your bad self!

Mixed emotions.

How can one be excited and happy about two relationships in their life while feeling so sad about another one changing? It’s so confusing.

I’ve been blessed to enter into a new relationship with an incredibly sexy (to me) man. Someone who makes me feel sexy, wanted and protected. Poppa and him have met and they seem to have hit off. Things are in a good place with Poppa, communication, support and love all around.

So why am I so sad? Why do I feel so unfulfilled, so lost?

I let puppy out of consideration this weekend. It was one of the most painful things I have done. I’ve let subs go in the past but puppy she was different. She had become a part of my heart, my family, and my life. I didn’t realize how much she had filled in my life and saying I’m struggling with the change is an understatement.  I know it was for the best and we are working on trying to rekindle the friendship without the D/s. But it’s hard. It’s hard to feel like you failed someone, like you failed yourself, that you weren’t up for the challenge. It’s hard to admit that it didn’t work, that you had to walk away. All normal feelings when any relationship ends, but some how a D/s dynamic/relationship ending seems to be more difficult.

They met!!!

So K and A sat down and had dinner a few nights ago. I was so nervous and had no reason to be. I have chosen two amazing men to be partners in my life. They don't know it yet but they really are a lot alike in things. The best feeling is to know that both my partners are respectful of each other and protective of me. 

K of course knows me so much better and has my lil side in his hand. He's seen me in my worst times, and has gone through some of the most amazing things over the years. He is my home, my favorite comedian, my best friend, protector, hero. He is amazing

A he is a younger version of K. He is smart, sexy, funny, protective and I'm excited to see where this will go. 

The NRE scares the shit out of me. I'm scared of not being fair to K, of spending to much time with A. I seem to want to spend all my time with him and I think about him constantly. That's not fair to K, I need to do something to make him know that I still love him and that he will always be first in my life. 

BUT THEY MET!!! That was amazing! Now don't screw it up. :P 

When you turn into the weepy drunk girl

UGH!!! So K & I came back from our trip early. It was a nice little get away, was wonderful to see his dad and visit Tombstone. K is everything I have ever wanted in a husband and best friend he is my home and I love him. 

Being poly is not easy. I never thought it would be, but I also really never thought I would care about my other partner as I do A. I've fallen for him and fallen hard, I keep telling myself its not the dreaded L word that its more of the NRE, but than the weepy drunk girl came out last night and decided SHE just HAD to tell him. 

So she did, she told him in her drunken state that she as falling for him, she also said she knew that tomorrow he was going to wake and say this is all too much! But he didn't, he's still here, he's still around and well I still have the NRE 

When family Christmas plans change!

So this shouldn’t bother me but it does. For the past year my brother has been talking about coming down to SD for the holidays. I’ve been really excited about seeing him and finally having a family holiday together again. Well last night my mum tells me they aren’t going to be here for Christmas. They are going to go up to Washington State for 3 months. I was so pissed; I didn’t hold back, I even said I thought she was being selfish. She then comes back on me saying well it’s a lot of work and yadda yadda yadda, are you going to come over and help? FUCK!!! I work! Everyone around me wants me to do everything and all I want to do is have Christmas with my family. I felt awful about saying to her that I thought they were being selfish because it had been talked about for a year, but it’s truly how I feel, but then I felt selfish about saying that and feeling selfish myself.

The sucky thing is that then she says well we don’t know because it depends on the construction and I’m all I’m not going to wait on that and last minute change plans. No if you aren’t having Christmas here than I’ll make other plans.  I told K today and he said yep just another example of your mom being an ass and not wanting to do anything that will inconvenience her. It’s so true; she seriously doesn’t want to and doesn’t think about anyone else’s feelings.  She’s an asshat.

So here I am feeling guilty over telling her she being selfish and feeling bad because saying that makes me look selfish, at the same time so mad at her right now that I don’t want to have anything to do with her.

We’ll figure Christmas out. We’ll do something at the house invite Puppy and A over, maybe a lunch game night or something. It’ll be fine

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