Sometimes communicating your concerns....isn't easy!

I've learned over the past year through my program to express my wants, needs, views, concerns and set boundaries. So why is it that trying to have and live healthy relationships with people on all levels of your life, seems harder to communicate than to just not say anything at all

Is it so uncommon for people to express their wants and needs in a non-judgemental/negative way that others automatically become defensive? I don't know but I am truly trying to live and treat others in my life the way I want to be treated.

So I was communicating with a guy who I mentioned yesterday to you my dear blog, who purchased a vehicle for a good friend of his today. This friend is a female, she's a single mom of a 16 year old and according to him things are tight and her current vehicle was falling a part. So he decided to spend the money he had set aside to purchase himself another fun vehicle and purchase his friend a reliable car. I admire him for doing it and think it was an amazing thing to do (hey any of you out there want to pay for me to go to New York City, I wouldn't turn it down. *giggles* just saying!)

So to continue on. Anyhow during this communication I expressed my concerns behind why he had done this for this woman. I was trying to be honest that I was concerned about getting involved with someone whom might have strong feelings for another woman and have just bought her a car. I realized through the conversation that he was feeling a bit attacked and I felt terrible, because this was not my intention at all. My intention was to only express my concerns in a healthy, loving, honest way. *sighs*

When did that become such absurdity? Why is it that we jump to the conclusion that someone is attacking us when they are trying to express their hopes, needs, wants, concerns? Has society become such a out for themselves, defend it for all it's worth system? Where are the peace loving days of the 60's? *giggles* probably washed away with the idea of loving thy neighbor.