Casual sex...it's every where these days. Everyone is doing it! As I typed that I heard my mom's voice saying and if everyone jumped out of a plane would you?....umm YES!!!
Casual sex is what has made society what it is in terms of relationships with others. You can easily jump on Craig's list, AFF or any other online dating site and find someone to have a night of casual sex with. So what's wrong with that you're asking? Especially coming from you Ms. Voices who is very open minded preaching at times that sex is really just an exercise for the body, something we all need and have to have to survive. It's not what defines a relationship, enmeshment , joining that is what defines relationships.
Yes I've had casual sex, done the FWB's thing, even gosh behold the FBuddy thing, but the following is why I don't like it. Because SOMEONE always gets attached!, and its usually the woman which equates to ME!!! As we all know men and women have very different views on Sex and handle it very differently.
There have been times in my life I will admit that I was pretty promiscious, I could handle the sex with men as being just a release of the body. These days those I know what I desire and the casual sex part as much as I try to keep it just that CASUAL, I tend to get attached. So that is what happened recently.
I was in a pretty casual relationship with a man. When we started out I was pretty clear that I was looking for a relationship, he seemed inclined to wanting the same thing till we had sex, at which point he said that we wasn't looking for a relationship. Well in all my wisdom I should of just been done with him at that point and walked away...but DAMN my sexual bodiness...if it didn't pick up that phone a time or two late at night for a bootie call. *YES* Even I am guilty of this!!!
So this casual sex partner informs me a while back that he's decided to get back with an ex gf and see if things will work out this time. We actually were out on a casual date when he informed me of this...to be honest we were about to have sex. He then proceeds to tell me that he wanted to tell me face to face so I didn't have any hurt feelings and he wanted to wrap things up. Yeah he wanted one last romp in the hay...or as he referred it as the beast with two backs. *rolling eyes* You're probably saying but Ms. Voices it was just casual, yeah I know and he was polite about the entire thing, but regardless it still hurts when you're rejected. Makes a woman's mind say what is so wrong with me that he didn't want to try with me?
*sighs*
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