Stop talking to them as though they are Hairy Women!

As I mentioned the other day I went to a workshop called understanding men. I was a bit apprehensive about going thinking it might be some men haters/bashing seminar, which would result in me walking out. I can't stand negativity in my life. To my surprise though it was very positive and I learned a lot in just the 3 hours of the seminar. Of course the free seminar was just a teaser to get you to take the weekend seminar. (It's a chuck of money but I hope to be able to take it one day)

So the seminar talked about how men and women communicate, as we all know men and women are very very different. There are tons of books out that explain this. The seminar put it in the simplest terms ever, as women we talk to men as though they are HAIRY women. We expect men to understand and communicate as we do just they are hairier. It was a revelation to me and I have since been able to adjust myself when talking to a man.

As women when we talk to me, especially those that we are romantic with we tend to thing that everything they are saying has to do with us. For example a man and a woman can be talking and the man says I think it might be a good summer to do some camping. A woman interrupts it as Oh he wants to take me camping this summer. Or a man may say Rascal Flatts is coming to town this fall. A woman thinks oh he wants to keep dating me till the fall and go see Rascal Flatts. Then the summer comes and goes the fall comes and goes and no camping no Rascal Flatts, the woman is disappointed and it starts a fight and possibly a breakup. What a woman has to understand is that is men talking, just them talking, as a woman we have to understand this and allow men to talk with out it being plans set in stone. When a man is wanting to do something he will extend an invitation. An extended invitation has a time, event and place. That is when you know that there is an invitation.

Stop talking to them like hairy women then you might actually be able to hear what the man is saying.