So I went out on the first date with Trojan man last night, had a wonderful time and of course we talked about sex. Now today it seems like all he is interested in is talking about sex and getting me into bed with him. *sighs* Leads a girl to think that all he is interested in is that SEX.
So this evening right before my meeting I sent him a text asking if I could be completely honest about something? To which he of course replied yes. I told him that as much as I wanted to sleep with him, I have put up some boundaries while dating and I am working very strongly at abiding to them. That I am looking for someone to date, to trust to explore sexually and none sexually with. That I want someone to be able to talk to date, and establish a healthy loving relationship with. His reply back was we can do both. *sighs* now it leads a girl to hope that he's right but he still hasn't asked me on a second date, only wanting me to come over after my meeting to get sweaty.
I struggled through my meeting tonight how what to say to him about going over there. Talked to a gf @ the meeting who said she did the same thing with her now BF and just told him that she just wasn't comfortable having sex yet and only being used for sex, that She just wanted to wait till they were committed and trusted each other. She that he was frustrated many many times, but he did respect her boundaries. The thing is that he is in a program also so understands that she is working the program and respects that. Trojan man doesn't know about the program and telling him at the moment might scare him way off. *sighs*
This establishing boundaries when dating in order to have a healthy loving relationship isn't as easy as reading it. *sighs*
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