Men are Lazy Daters

When did dating become endless emails and texts? when did old fashioned standards of asking a girl out become something of a passing phase? When did hanging out and hooking up become the norm to a healthy and loving relationship?

Maybe I was born in the wrong era. I still have that fairy tale thought process of a man holding my door open, bringing flowers, ordering for me, holding hands, picking up the tab. I'm not expecting a prince on a white horse, to be honest even as a country girl horses freak me out. But I am looking for a smitten suitor.

So today during a fellowship lunch, my fellow program members and I got into the discussion of dating. Different dating strategies and how men and women view things and how really it should all come from a place of integrity. Not just on the part of the person you're dating but within yourself.

Is the person your dating on a level of integrity that you're not lowering yourself to their level? Are you staying to true to your own morals, beliefs, wants and desires?

It was pointed out that when we have integrity within ourselves and live our lives that way, that we attract a higher level of people to us. We also will continue to attract people of a lower level of integrity that will manipulate and attempt to control us to lower ourselves. This reminded me of a sermon I heard at church years ago. The Pastor was talking about being filled with faith empty, half full and full. He explained how those that get into partnerships with people who are faith empty or half full and they are themselves full the empty partner thinks that the full can just share some of their fullness. It doesn't work that way. You have to fill yourself up. The glass can't be half empty unless you allow it and it can't fill up to the rim with out you working from the inside out.

Its funny because whenever I am discouraged or feel like I can't do something I am reminded from my higher power that I have him to give it all to. That he wants us to be a the best we can be....and that might not be your neighbors best....but it's YOUR best!!

A favorite song of mine Dream Big, by Ryan Shupe, has always placed that belief in my heart. Because when you Dream, Dream Big! And walk with pride, integrity and love for yourself!